I don’t know how you feel about the Holidays, but I know they stir up a lot of emotions. It’s a bittersweet time, especially for those that have suffered the loss of someone close to their heart. Here are some of my secrets to embrace your loved ones, in spirit, during this time:
1. Go Through the Pain
Go through the pain and face it head on. This means ditching the alcohol and quit the binge eating because sadly it won’t bring them back. Believe me, I’ve been there. When feeling overly emotional, it just numbs the pain. Don’t get me wrong, a drink or two is okay but if you’re drinking or eating so that you “don’t feel,” it won’t work out for you in the long run. It’s really easy to overindulge during the holidays anyway, and when you’re going through grief forget about it. It’s magnified! If you’re feeling sad or angry, lose the self-judgment. Either write your feelings in a journal or talk to someone. This means even talking to the person you’ve lost (they’re listening).
2. Keep Open Communication
Open communication is exactly what your loved ones, in spirit, want. If you are speaking to them, pay attention to their response. Their communication may come from a thought that “pops in” your mind or a song that plays on the radio when you “happen” to walk into a room. You may also notice signs that are around you. Pay attention to that penny that showed up or the feather that happened to fly by at the right moment.
3. Embrace Them
Embrace them by lighting a candle or saying a prayer, to acknowledge their soul. You can also write them a letter. Embracing you is embracing them, so they love it if you take time to get a massage or pamper yourself too.
Celebrate as if your loved ones are there, because they are! They don’t want you sitting by yourself because you feel guilty having fun without them. They actually want you around friends and family. You can celebrate them by doing things that you loved to do together, like playing your favorite games or movies.
Remember your loved ones are with you always, even during the Holidays. They love to live through you, so make it count!
How do you deal with grief around the holidays? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
I wrote a prayer from a Loved One in Heaven, in the book “365 Days of Angel Prayers” and the book is #1 on Amazon in the Angel Category! Here’s the link: http://amzn.to/1r31Gtg